"Why are you so cold to me? Why can you just agree to my brother’s various requirements? " At 10 o’clock in the evening, Zhang Yangyang, a sophomore girl standing on the phone at the end of the dormitory corridor, became more and more emotional. This is the third time in a month that she has made a scene with her mother.

　　At the other end of the phone, my mother was still saying something, but Zhang Yangyang couldn’t listen to it, so she threw her phone to the ground. Roommates rushed out to comfort Zhang Yangyang, who was shaking with tears. They know that the quarrel must be triggered by their younger brother, who is 9 years younger than Zhang Yangyang.

　　Zhang Yangyang thought that if she went to college far away from her hometown, she would be able to get rid of the shadow her brother had caused her in middle school. However, it didn’t.

　　Just like the contradiction shown in the movie "Take my brother away quickly", brothers and sisters determined by blood will resist and alienate each other’s existence and parents’ attitude because of their immature growth stage. When a two-child family encounters adolescence, how should parents and children handle and resolve many psychological puzzles together?

　　Going to college in a distant city has become my biggest motivation to survive high school.

　　"It resonated when I watched" Take My Brother Away ".I also fantasized about it many times. If only there were no younger brothers at home."

　　When Zhang Yangyang was in junior high school, his younger brother was still in kindergarten and primary school. "The two of us are just one word all day: grab. Will rob TV, I want to watch the news, he wants to watch cartoons; I will grab snacks. After 50/50, I usually eat a quarter, and my brother has eaten it all, so he will grab mine. "

　　Whenever there is friction with my younger brother, my mother will say the mantra: "You are my sister, so let my younger brother go." Zhang Yangyang was very resistant: "No one gave way to me when I was a child?"

　　When he was older, Zhang Yangyang felt that his younger brother was fighting for the future, not just TV and snacks. "The school organized a study tour program in the provincial capital city in the summer vacation of senior one, and my father wouldn’t let me go, saying that it was a waste of money and time; In the second year of high school, I feel that it is difficult to learn physics. I want to go to a remedial class, and my mother does not agree. "

　　Demand was repeatedly rejected by parents, and Zhang Yangyang’s resentment against his younger brother deepened: "Although my younger brother doesn’t want anything, I think my parents are unfair and prefer boys to girls!"

　　With the idea of "out of sight, out of mind", Zhang Yangyang decided to go to a university in a distant city, which became the biggest motivation for her to get through high school. But it turns out that the knot that has not been solved before continues to be an unavoidable obstacle in college. When parents refused to go out for communication during the summer vacation and wanted to look after their younger brother at home, Zhang Yangyang broke out completely: "I didn’t want you to have a younger brother. Why did you sacrifice my future?"

　　Yin Hongfeng, a psychological teacher in the private huijia school Middle School, believes that the most concentrated confusion of the older children in the two-child family in adolescence is "falling out of favor". Such children are prone to a pair of contradictions: they are eager for independence and full of dependence. "Adolescent children slowly become independent from their families and move towards their own small world. But suddenly a younger child comes, and then the older child will feel from ‘ Princess ’ Suddenly become a state where no one cares. "

　　Yin Hongfeng pointed out that after falling out of favor, children will be particularly sensitive to fairness. Even if some outsiders see their parents’ unusual and just things, in children’s eyes, the feeling of unfairness will be continuously amplified. Yin Hongfeng believes that to deal with such a sibling relationship, parents should first show their attitude, and their starting point is the same, and let the older child realize that the reason why he is emotional may be that he cares too much about "fairness".

　　Yin Hongfeng doesn’t agree that parents always say that older children "must give way to their younger brothers and sisters". "Parents should give their children reasonable guidance, pave the way in advance, arouse their sense of responsibility, and let them know what they can do, instead of directly ordering you to do what you should do after the contradiction occurs."

　　My parents didn’t tell me how to be a sister, which made my brother and I feel like strangers.

　　Wang Xiaoqi, 23, is eight years behind his younger brother. In adolescence, she also fell into confusion because of her younger brother and doubted her position in her parents’ hearts. However, parents’ indifference to the relationship between brother and sister has caused a completely different result from Zhang Yangyang — — The relationship between her and her brother is very alienated, and each tube has its own, and there is little intersection.

　　Wang Xiaoqi recalled that at the beginning, this younger brother was like an "airdrop", without warning, and "thud" hit her quiet life. During the winter vacation in the second grade of primary school, she went to her aunt’s house for a month and came home to find a baby in the house. "My parents didn’t discuss it with me in advance, and even the whole family told me that my brother picked it up at the hospital gate. I really believed it at that time."

　　"A younger brother fell from the sky, which has a great influence on me. I also described it in detail in my composition. My parents not only didn’t say why they gave birth to my younger brother, but also didn’t tell me how to treat my younger brother as an elder sister. This led me not to kiss my younger brother. Although I would play together, I would not share my inner thoughts with each other. "

　　Wang Xiaoqi regrets that when she is about to go to college, she strongly feels that if only her parents had taught her the responsibility of being a sister earlier. "Because it’s really only when we are young that we do something together and care about each other, and when we grow up, we will be closer. Now we are too independent and lack some closer connection. "

　　The "relationship class" that has been missing from my parents during adolescence can only be made up by myself. After going to college, when my mother calls to complain about my brother, Wang Xiaoqi will help him explain; Go home on vacation and take the initiative to ask about my brother’s studies. "When I take the initiative to approach, my brother has obviously grown up and will take the initiative to talk to me about school and life."

　　In Yin Hongfeng’s view, when parents decide to have a second child, they should have a good communication with the first child, explain clearly why they want to have brothers and sisters, and what changes the older child may face, so as to arouse his sense of responsibility and mission.

　　"Parents should give enough psychological construction to let children know that if you are the only child in our family, you will be under great pressure when your parents are old. But with a younger brother or sister to share, the pressure will be much smaller. " Yin Hongfeng pointed out that parents need to listen to what kind of brotherhood their children really want. "Brotherhood is irreplaceable by other feelings. The warmer and more harmonious brotherhood is good for the growth of both people.".

　　Give space and psychological support to build a sense of boundary between two children.

　　"The problem didn’t first appear in adolescence." Li Rong, who has a pair of children, lamented that when the second child was born, the problem of getting along between the two children had already started. Her two children are eight years apart. Her elder sister is in high school and her younger brother is in primary school.

　　"The difference between the two children is 6 to 8 years old, and the relationship is more difficult to deal with. They are not on the same channel. Now the boss is in various cram schools, and the second child is still playing silly. This gap has caused fewer opportunities for them to establish emotional connections. "

　　The eldest of adolescence often shows that his parents are partial to the second child, and Li Rong is helpless. "You have different requirements for children of different ages. Young children can eat, drink and be happy; And the boss’s academic pressure has come up, so you will naturally have many requirements for her — — In the eyes of children, that is eccentricity. "

　　Li Rong found that the two children would imitate each other, stimulate each other, and "compete" for the opportunity to get close to themselves. The teenage boss was as "naive" as his younger brother, and he would suddenly act like a spoiled brat.

　　However, Li Rong also saw that if the elder sister has a good face to the younger brother, the younger brother will "rush to be particularly good to the elder sister", and vice versa. "The second child is born with this kind of robbing consciousness, and he feels that everything has to be robbed by others. But whenever my sister is willing to tease him, he is especially willing to play with her, which is better than following her mother, so the demonstration effect of the boss has a great influence on the second child. "

　　At present, in the face of the relationship between the two children, Li Rong’s approach is — — The problem of brother and sister is backward, so let my sister spend her adolescence first. "I’ll let the younger ones leave their sister alone or isolate them. This is not necessarily a good thing for their emotional communication, but adolescence will have its own stumbling and troubles, and many times my way is to let them not get along. "

　　Yin Hongfeng thinks that parents need to give their older children in adolescence enough support in space and psychology. Don’t deprive him of the right to make decisions about his future and life.

　　In addition, it must be noted that the younger child in a two-child family is also sensitive in heart. "As soon as he is born, he needs to learn to read and speak." Yin Hongfeng suggested that parents should let the second child know that the boss is protecting him, but he can’t rely entirely on the boss. "Parents can tell the younger child that you can play with your sister, but she still has a lot of homework to do when she comes back, so you have to wait until she finishes her homework before you find her to play — — This is to let children know that there is a sense of boundary between people. "

　　China Youth Daily China Youth Network reporter Shen Jiequn Source: China Youth Daily

　　Cctv newsAccording to the Emergency Management Department, on August 19th, in order to implement the spirit of the second plenary meeting of The Politburo Standing Committee (PSC) and the State Council, the National Defense General Office and the Emergency Management Department organized video consultation and dispatch on flood control and drought relief, and jointly consulted with the China Meteorological Bureau, the Ministry of Water Resources and the Ministry of Natural Resources to judge the rain, flood, drought and disaster, and video dispatched Tianjin, Gansu, Sichuan and other provinces to arrange flood control and drought relief work in key areas.

　　The meeting stressed that it is still in the main flood season, and it is necessary to thoroughly implement the spirit of the important speech of the Supreme Leader General Secretary as the primary political task at present and in the future. In accordance with the deployment requirements of the CPC Central Committee and the State Council, we should adhere to the people first and life first, take the sense of responsibility of "always worrying", further compact the responsibility, refine the division of tasks, do a good job in flood control, drought relief and disaster relief from beginning to end, and earnestly put the safety of people’s lives in the first place.

　　The meeting pointed out that the main stream of Songhua River in Northeast China has retreated below the warning water level, and the dikes in Haihe River Basin are still in danger at the stage of retreating. The difficulty of transferring personnel management has gradually increased with time. The local heavy rainfall in South China, Jiangnan, southwestern Sichuan and Yunnan is sporadic and frequent, and the drought in Northwest China continues and may develop further. The situation of flood control and drought relief is still very complicated.

　　The meeting called for ensuring that flood control responsibility measures are put in place, and urging administrative responsible persons at all levels to arrive at their posts, sink to the front line, and command from the front, so as to truly be responsible, responsible and conscientious in guarding the soil. It is necessary to continue to do a good job in flood control and drainage in the Haihe River Basin, strengthen inspection and defense of flood discharge channels and dikes in flood storage and detention areas, strictly guard against major dangers during the water withdrawal period, continue to promote waterlogging in waterlogged areas and flood storage and detention areas, and do a good job in blocking and restoring flood diversion gates in an orderly manner. It is necessary to strictly guard against local heavy rainfall. In view of weak links such as small and medium-sized river floods, small and medium-sized reservoirs’ safety in flood season, mountain torrents and geological disasters, and urban waterlogging, we should encrypt patrol duty and emergency response, strictly implement the responsibilities and measures of early warning and call, transfer risk avoidance, and rescue, resolutely transfer threatened people such as mountain torrents, hidden dangers of geological disasters, low-lying areas along the river, and construction sites, and make overall plans for flood control, security and production safety in industrial and mining enterprises during flood season. It is necessary to speed up disaster relief, recovery and reconstruction, take on-the-spot verification, satellite remote sensing and other means to carry out disaster assessment quickly and dynamically, scientifically determine areas that need key support, urge all localities to make good use of disaster relief funds, and do everything possible to speed up the recovery and reconstruction of damaged houses to ensure that the affected people can go home or move into new homes as soon as possible. At present, Xinjiang, Gansu and other provinces with severe drought should further improve the emergency plan for drought relief, strengthen drought relief consultation and drought statistics, ensure the drinking water safety of urban and rural residents, and make overall plans for drought relief.

Good news: not like scenery/bad news: like M9 new exposure.

Recently, the domestic social platform released a new imaginary M7 picture, and the new car adopted a similar design style, getting rid of the shadow. It is reported that the new car will be released in the second half of 2025.

Obviously, the new M7 refers to the design of the current M9 and follows the aesthetic principle of "extreme, simple and pure". The difference is that its headlight shape is closer to the new style, and the meteor shower light in the second half is cancelled.

Because this group of fake pictures is designed based on patent drawings, it has extremely high reference value. As a mid-term redesigned model, the new car has finally responded substantially to "the M7 is the oil-to-electricity conversion of scenery ix7". Although the probability is still based on the previous body-in-white and architecture, at least it doesn’t look like it.

The design of the rear of the vehicle is also different from the current model, but the overall change is not big. It is still the design of the clamshell tailgate, but the license plate frame is placed under the taillights, and the bottom is also decorated with chrome strips.

In terms of hardware, it is expected that the new M7 will comply with the trend of increasing the battery of the extended range vehicle, switch to a battery pack with larger capacity, and strengthen the efficiency of the range extender to squeeze the utilization space of the current architecture as much as possible. Or build a new generation of M7 based on the platform capability decentralization of M9, and the hard power will definitely be improved qualitatively.

● Glass brand: different according to the origin.

　　In addition to the manufacturing process, let’s take a look at the window suppliers of these two models. As for the window suppliers, the 320i front windshield and skylight glass are made of products from PILKINGTON (pilkington) in Britain, the rear windshield is made of products from SISECAM brand, and the side windows are made of products from our own brand Fuyao Glass. This performance also proves that Fuyao Glass’s development and strength in the same industry have been recognized.

　　The window glass of 320Li adopts Fuyao brand except the rear door triangle window. For the glass brand, it is believed that more depends on the supplier selected by the manufacturer, which is also related to the location of the factory. I believe there will not be much difference in actual cost performance.

● Tire and hub: The hub styles are different, but the tire specifications and hub sizes are exactly the same.

　　Tires and wheels are also a focus of our attention. The tyre size of the two cars are exactly the same, both of which are 225/55 R16, but the 16-inch wheels look a little less atmospheric, and the styles of the two cars are also different. The style is more about personal preference. The two brands of tires are different. The 320i adopts Tairan and the 320Li adopts P7 tires. The characteristics of these two tires are biased towards comfort, so there should not be much difference in use.

● Comparison of spare parts: The suppliers of spare parts are different due to different places of origin.

　　Although the supply of accessories has a lot to do with the location of the manufacturer, we still want to know more about these two models. We can see from the signs on the accessories that the lights of the 320i are from Austria and the sensors are from Germany. 320Li’s accessories are all from China. Of course, I don’t think there will be any difference in quality in the supply of accessories. After all, they must be approved by BMW brand, and it should only be the difference in production place.

● Comparison of materials used for interior decoration: There are differences between interior door trim panels and decorative parts, and there is no obvious difference in assembly technology and materials used.

　　After seeing the differences in appearance, workmanship and accessories suppliers, let’s walk into the car and open the door. The interior trim panels of the two cars have different shapes. Decorative strips are added to the interior trim panel of 320Li, and the wood grain decorative panel is used in the car, which is more calm than the silver panel of 320i. This color matching is also in line with the consumers who pay attention to riding. If it is the pursuit of manipulation, it will inevitably choose the standard version, and the silver decoration with all-black color matching is also younger.

● Comparison of front row configuration: 320i has more abundant configurations, and it is made of genuine leather, and 320Li is synthetic leather.

　　The front seats of the 320i have heating function, and the air conditioner is controlled in two temperature zones, so the care for the front passengers is more thoughtful and comprehensive. In addition to some minor differences on the door, the interior of the car is more focused on the differences in configuration, and there is no big gap in the workmanship and materials used in the instrument panel.

　　However, the leather material of the seat has different performances between the two cars. According to the official information, the 320i is made of Dakota leather, while the 320Li is made of synthetic leather. In addition to the differences in materials, there are also some differences in actual feelings. Dakota leather is more flexible and comfortable to ride, while synthetic leather is hard and slightly inferior in comfort.