"Why are you so cold to me? Why can you just agree to my brother’s various requirements? " At 10 o’clock in the evening, Zhang Yangyang, a sophomore girl standing on the phone at the end of the dormitory corridor, became more and more emotional. This is the third time in a month that she has made a scene with her mother.

　　At the other end of the phone, my mother was still saying something, but Zhang Yangyang couldn’t listen to it, so she threw her phone to the ground. Roommates rushed out to comfort Zhang Yangyang, who was shaking with tears. They know that the quarrel must be triggered by their younger brother, who is 9 years younger than Zhang Yangyang.

　　Zhang Yangyang thought that if she went to college far away from her hometown, she would be able to get rid of the shadow her brother had caused her in middle school. However, it didn’t.

　　Just like the contradiction shown in the movie "Take my brother away quickly", brothers and sisters determined by blood will resist and alienate each other’s existence and parents’ attitude because of their immature growth stage. When a two-child family encounters adolescence, how should parents and children handle and resolve many psychological puzzles together?

　　Going to college in a distant city has become my biggest motivation to survive high school.

　　"It resonated when I watched" Take My Brother Away ".I also fantasized about it many times. If only there were no younger brothers at home."

　　When Zhang Yangyang was in junior high school, his younger brother was still in kindergarten and primary school. "The two of us are just one word all day: grab. Will rob TV, I want to watch the news, he wants to watch cartoons; I will grab snacks. After 50/50, I usually eat a quarter, and my brother has eaten it all, so he will grab mine. "

　　Whenever there is friction with my younger brother, my mother will say the mantra: "You are my sister, so let my younger brother go." Zhang Yangyang was very resistant: "No one gave way to me when I was a child?"

　　When he was older, Zhang Yangyang felt that his younger brother was fighting for the future, not just TV and snacks. "The school organized a study tour program in the provincial capital city in the summer vacation of senior one, and my father wouldn’t let me go, saying that it was a waste of money and time; In the second year of high school, I feel that it is difficult to learn physics. I want to go to a remedial class, and my mother does not agree. "

　　Demand was repeatedly rejected by parents, and Zhang Yangyang’s resentment against his younger brother deepened: "Although my younger brother doesn’t want anything, I think my parents are unfair and prefer boys to girls!"

　　With the idea of "out of sight, out of mind", Zhang Yangyang decided to go to a university in a distant city, which became the biggest motivation for her to get through high school. But it turns out that the knot that has not been solved before continues to be an unavoidable obstacle in college. When parents refused to go out for communication during the summer vacation and wanted to look after their younger brother at home, Zhang Yangyang broke out completely: "I didn’t want you to have a younger brother. Why did you sacrifice my future?"

　　Yin Hongfeng, a psychological teacher in the private huijia school Middle School, believes that the most concentrated confusion of the older children in the two-child family in adolescence is "falling out of favor". Such children are prone to a pair of contradictions: they are eager for independence and full of dependence. "Adolescent children slowly become independent from their families and move towards their own small world. But suddenly a younger child comes, and then the older child will feel from ‘ Princess ’ Suddenly become a state where no one cares. "

　　Yin Hongfeng pointed out that after falling out of favor, children will be particularly sensitive to fairness. Even if some outsiders see their parents’ unusual and just things, in children’s eyes, the feeling of unfairness will be continuously amplified. Yin Hongfeng believes that to deal with such a sibling relationship, parents should first show their attitude, and their starting point is the same, and let the older child realize that the reason why he is emotional may be that he cares too much about "fairness".

　　Yin Hongfeng doesn’t agree that parents always say that older children "must give way to their younger brothers and sisters". "Parents should give their children reasonable guidance, pave the way in advance, arouse their sense of responsibility, and let them know what they can do, instead of directly ordering you to do what you should do after the contradiction occurs."

　　My parents didn’t tell me how to be a sister, which made my brother and I feel like strangers.

　　Wang Xiaoqi, 23, is eight years behind his younger brother. In adolescence, she also fell into confusion because of her younger brother and doubted her position in her parents’ hearts. However, parents’ indifference to the relationship between brother and sister has caused a completely different result from Zhang Yangyang — — The relationship between her and her brother is very alienated, and each tube has its own, and there is little intersection.

　　Wang Xiaoqi recalled that at the beginning, this younger brother was like an "airdrop", without warning, and "thud" hit her quiet life. During the winter vacation in the second grade of primary school, she went to her aunt’s house for a month and came home to find a baby in the house. "My parents didn’t discuss it with me in advance, and even the whole family told me that my brother picked it up at the hospital gate. I really believed it at that time."

　　"A younger brother fell from the sky, which has a great influence on me. I also described it in detail in my composition. My parents not only didn’t say why they gave birth to my younger brother, but also didn’t tell me how to treat my younger brother as an elder sister. This led me not to kiss my younger brother. Although I would play together, I would not share my inner thoughts with each other. "

　　Wang Xiaoqi regrets that when she is about to go to college, she strongly feels that if only her parents had taught her the responsibility of being a sister earlier. "Because it’s really only when we are young that we do something together and care about each other, and when we grow up, we will be closer. Now we are too independent and lack some closer connection. "

　　The "relationship class" that has been missing from my parents during adolescence can only be made up by myself. After going to college, when my mother calls to complain about my brother, Wang Xiaoqi will help him explain; Go home on vacation and take the initiative to ask about my brother’s studies. "When I take the initiative to approach, my brother has obviously grown up and will take the initiative to talk to me about school and life."

　　In Yin Hongfeng’s view, when parents decide to have a second child, they should have a good communication with the first child, explain clearly why they want to have brothers and sisters, and what changes the older child may face, so as to arouse his sense of responsibility and mission.

　　"Parents should give enough psychological construction to let children know that if you are the only child in our family, you will be under great pressure when your parents are old. But with a younger brother or sister to share, the pressure will be much smaller. " Yin Hongfeng pointed out that parents need to listen to what kind of brotherhood their children really want. "Brotherhood is irreplaceable by other feelings. The warmer and more harmonious brotherhood is good for the growth of both people.".

　　Give space and psychological support to build a sense of boundary between two children.

　　"The problem didn’t first appear in adolescence." Li Rong, who has a pair of children, lamented that when the second child was born, the problem of getting along between the two children had already started. Her two children are eight years apart. Her elder sister is in high school and her younger brother is in primary school.

　　"The difference between the two children is 6 to 8 years old, and the relationship is more difficult to deal with. They are not on the same channel. Now the boss is in various cram schools, and the second child is still playing silly. This gap has caused fewer opportunities for them to establish emotional connections. "

　　The eldest of adolescence often shows that his parents are partial to the second child, and Li Rong is helpless. "You have different requirements for children of different ages. Young children can eat, drink and be happy; And the boss’s academic pressure has come up, so you will naturally have many requirements for her — — In the eyes of children, that is eccentricity. "

　　Li Rong found that the two children would imitate each other, stimulate each other, and "compete" for the opportunity to get close to themselves. The teenage boss was as "naive" as his younger brother, and he would suddenly act like a spoiled brat.

　　However, Li Rong also saw that if the elder sister has a good face to the younger brother, the younger brother will "rush to be particularly good to the elder sister", and vice versa. "The second child is born with this kind of robbing consciousness, and he feels that everything has to be robbed by others. But whenever my sister is willing to tease him, he is especially willing to play with her, which is better than following her mother, so the demonstration effect of the boss has a great influence on the second child. "

　　At present, in the face of the relationship between the two children, Li Rong’s approach is — — The problem of brother and sister is backward, so let my sister spend her adolescence first. "I’ll let the younger ones leave their sister alone or isolate them. This is not necessarily a good thing for their emotional communication, but adolescence will have its own stumbling and troubles, and many times my way is to let them not get along. "

　　Yin Hongfeng thinks that parents need to give their older children in adolescence enough support in space and psychology. Don’t deprive him of the right to make decisions about his future and life.

　　In addition, it must be noted that the younger child in a two-child family is also sensitive in heart. "As soon as he is born, he needs to learn to read and speak." Yin Hongfeng suggested that parents should let the second child know that the boss is protecting him, but he can’t rely entirely on the boss. "Parents can tell the younger child that you can play with your sister, but she still has a lot of homework to do when she comes back, so you have to wait until she finishes her homework before you find her to play — — This is to let children know that there is a sense of boundary between people. "

　　China Youth Daily China Youth Network reporter Shen Jiequn Source: China Youth Daily

　　It is very important to do a good job in economic and social development this year and take the first step in China’s development during the 14 th Five-Year Plan period.

　　"Implementing the new development concept is a profound change that has a bearing on China’s overall development. We cannot simply talk about heroes by GDP growth rate. We must achieve high-quality development in which innovation becomes the first driving force, coordination becomes the endogenous feature, green becomes the universal form, opening up becomes the only way, and sharing becomes the fundamental purpose." The Central Committee of the Communist Party of China’s Resolution on the Great Achievements and Historical Experience of the Party’s Hundred Years’ Struggle, which was adopted at the Sixth Plenary Session of the 19th CPC Central Committee, wrote.

　　Over the past year, the General Secretary of the Supreme Leader has visited the local areas many times, walking and watching all the way, leading China’s economy to stabilize the rudder with wisdom and foresight; He has presided over many important meetings, personally promoted and deployed them, coordinated epidemic prevention and control and economic and social development, and United and led hundreds of millions of people to forge ahead.

　　"The high-quality development of manufacturing industry is the top priority of the high-quality development of China’s economy." In April this year, during an inspection tour of Guangxi Liugong Group, General Secretary of the Supreme Leader earnestly said to the staff representatives that "high-quality development and innovation are very important".

　　How important is innovation in the mind of the supreme leader?

　　"We must persist in innovation and creation and improve the synergy level of innovation chain in the industrial chain."

　　"Take strengthening scientific and technological innovation as the most urgent task and speed up key core technology research."

　　"Our country must rely on innovation to enter the first phalanx of scientific and technological development. It is not feasible to follow blindly. We must accelerate the pace of self-reliance and self-improvement in science and technology."

　　Over the past year, the CPC Central Committee with the Supreme Leader as the core has insisted on taking innovation as the first driving force for development. According to the Global Innovation Index 2021 released by the World Intellectual Property Organization on September 20th, China’s global ranking in the field of innovation rose from 14th last year to 12th this year.

　　Coordinated development focuses on solving the problem of insufficient development imbalance.

　　When attending the deliberation of the Inner Mongolia delegation at the National People’s Congress, the Supreme Leader said: "It is still a long way to go to solve the problem of insufficient development imbalance, narrow the development gap between urban and rural areas, and realize the all-round development of people and the common prosperity of all people."

　　At the tenth meeting of the Central Committee of Finance and Economics, the Supreme Leader pointed out sharply that we must be soberly aware that the problem of insufficient development imbalance in China is still outstanding, and there is a big gap between urban and rural regional development and income distribution.

　　Over the past year, China has persisted in solving the problem of insufficient development imbalance by means of development, and the country’s major regional strategy has been continuously advanced.

　　Saihanba mechanical forest farm, the world’s largest plateau artificial forest. Here, the Saihanba spirit of "keeping in mind the mission, hard work and green development" has been passed down from generation to generation.

　　On August 23rd, General Secretary of the Supreme Leader came here. Looking at the growing ranks of forest rangers, the General Secretary felt gratified: "Saihanba spirit is an integral part of the Communist Party of China (CPC)’s spiritual pedigree. The whole party and the people of the whole country should carry forward this spirit and develop the green economy and ecological civilization well. "

　　In 2021, China’s ecological civilization construction, with peak carbon dioxide emissions and carbon neutrality as the starting point, began a comprehensive green transformation of economic and social development.

　　"Incorporate peak carbon dioxide emissions and carbon neutrality into the overall layout of economic and social development and ecological civilization construction, establish and improve an economic system with green and low-carbon circular development, and promote a comprehensive green transformation of economic and social development."

　　"According to the development direction of green and low carbon, we should achieve the goal of peak carbon dioxide emissions and carbon neutrality by benchmarking."

　　Nowadays, the sky is bluer, the water is greener and the biodiversity is richer. "Green" has become a common form in China.

　　The century-old change is superimposed on the century-old epidemic, human development is facing severe challenges, and the world has entered a period of turbulent change.

　　"What’s wrong with the world? What shall we do?" People’s pursuit of answers is even more urgent.

　　"China’s determination to expand high-level opening-up will not change, nor will its determination to share development opportunities with the world, nor will its determination to promote economic globalization in a more open, inclusive, inclusive, balanced and win-win direction."

　　China’s attitude has not changed.

　　From the first China International Consumer Goods Expo to the fourth China International Import Expo, from China International Fair for Trade in Services in 2021 to the 130th China Import and Export Fair … … Over the past year, the ever-increasing international economic and trade feasts have witnessed China’s vivid practice of opening up both domestically and internationally, and also demonstrated China’s confidence and determination to unswervingly follow the only way of opening up.

　　The people are the deepest foundation and the greatest confidence of our party in power. Seeking happiness for the people and rejuvenation for the nation is not only the starting point and foothold of our party’s leadership in modernization, but also the "root" and "soul" of the new development concept.

　　In April in Guangxi, when having a deep talk with Wang Deli, a villager in Maoshushan Village, the supreme leader said, "It is ‘ to make people’s lives happy; The big country ’ " ;

　　In Henan in May, when talking with Zou Xinzeng, a villager in Zouzhuang Village, the supreme leader pointed out that "the people are the mountains and rivers, and communist party fights and defends the mountains and rivers, guarding the hearts of the people in order to let the people live a good life";

　　In Shaanxi in September, when talking with Hou Zhirong, a villager in Haojiaqiao Village, the Supreme Leader said with deep affection, "It is our party’s unswerving initial mission to let the villagers live a good life, and communist party should do this well and keep handing in good answers."

　　The Communist Party of China (CPC) is rooted in the people and its blood is in the people. The party unites and leads the people in revolution, construction and reform, the fundamental purpose of which is to let the people live a better life.

　　Development is for the people, development depends on the people, and development results are shared by the people.

　　Over the past year, China, which has stood at a new historical starting point, has implemented the new development concept completely, accurately and comprehensively, faced difficulties and made great efforts. The actual growth rate of GDP is expected to reach about 8%, exceeding the expected target and achieving a good start in the 14 th Five-Year Plan.

　　Cautious and easy to take refuge, respectful and lofty. We must continue to be modest and prudent, work hard, mobilize all the positive factors that can be mobilized, unite all the forces that can be United, do our own thing with all our strength, and persevere in our efforts to achieve our set goals!

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　　Editor’s Note: This is a diary sent back to China Youth Daily by medical team members who went to Hubei from Wuhan, which records the real working conditions of medical staff in Fangcang Hospital. A reading meeting was held in Fangcang Hospital, where patients told their own stories, listened to each other’s voices and shared psychological difficulties. Guangdong’s advanced experience on-line "sensing observers" was introduced to prevent medical staff from "occupational exposure" due to action mistakes; Some medical staff also personally escorted 12 patients out of the hospital & HELIP; …

　　Today is the eighth day of my battle against the epidemic in Wuhan.

　　After coming to Wuhan, I have worn protective clothing into the cabin for three times. In addition to entering the cabin, I was assigned the task of following Director Zhang Jiming to control the infection in Wuchang Fangcang Hospital of Hongshan Gymnasium.

　　On the first day of entering the library, I drew the topographic map of each district with A4 paper, and made the regional division map, the process and schematic diagram of putting on and taking off protective clothing, the video and dubbing of putting on and taking off protective clothing, the formulation of job responsibilities of sensitive nurses, the process of transferring materials, and the working schedule and workflow of cleaning workers.

　　Under the guidance of Director Zhang and the mutual help of my comrades-in-arms, I took pains to revise these procedures again and again, only to make the sensory control the best with limited resources and raise the safety factor of medical care to the highest possible level.

　　After several days of continuous transfer, I feel that time flies, and there is not enough time. I was worried that insomnia due to homesickness almost did not exist. I fell asleep every day and almost had no time to contact my missing family.

　　My family is also very considerate, just saying "Be safe at home, pay attention to protection, wait for your return" every day, so that I can devote myself to the war "epidemic".

　　Just yesterday, my team and I personally escorted 12 COVID-19 patients who had been repeatedly confirmed to be recovered from hospital. In the face of the heartfelt thanks of these patients, I am proud of my team.

　　In the past, the weak wife and gentle mother at home have automatically evolved into a female "Iron Man" in Wuhan. I always remind myself and my comrades around me to keep warm, supplement more nutrition and increase their resistance. Let’s go forward bravely in this battlefield without smoke until victory.

　　Yesterday afternoon, it was my third class in Dongxihu Fangcang Hospital, and I will be on duty in Hall B for 6 hours. At present, Hall B has treated about 360 patients with mild COVID-19. Although it is mild, the number of patients is huge, and some patients need to be closely observed and alert to the development of severe diseases. After taking over at 14 o’clock, we began to work nervously and busily, such as making rounds, making doctor’s orders and recording the course of disease. The patients lined up to get medicine and meals, and everything was in order.

　　But I always feel that something is missing. Why is there no square dance in the legendary cabin?

　　Around 18 o’clock, the hall broadcast sounded. "Dear friends, hello everyone! I’m the head nurse in hall B. In order to enrich everyone’s cultural life, we are now holding a reading party in the cabin. Welcome friends to share their poems, recent books or film and television works, and also welcome to share their stories. " Later, the voice of the head nurse leading everyone to read came from the radio. Lang Lang’s reading sound was like early reading in primary and secondary schools, which was inspiring.

　　After the group reading, a middle-aged man recited an article he read. Next, a young man told the story that his family of five were infected with COVID-19 one after another. Many people began to cry in a low voice. When he talked about the medical assistance and social care that the whole family received after being infected with pneumonia, everyone was happy for him and encouraged him: "Everything will be fine."

　　An uncle took the microphone and said, "Excuse me, I have to make some comments. One of the toilets has a broken flush. Please fix it as soon as possible." At this time, it was not the head nurse’s turn to preside over it. An aunt grabbed the microphone and said in Wuhan dialect, "The medical staff are already very busy and tired. Let’s solve these small problems ourselves first. If the flush is broken, use the water at the end of the basin to flush the toilet temporarily. One basin can’t be sprinkled with two basins and three basins. " The crowd burst into warm applause. Aunt went on to say, "thank you doctors and nurses for coming to Wuhan from so far away to see us." Thank you! " Everyone shouted together: "Come on, Wuhan! Come on, China! " When we got out of the cabin after work, there were songs sung in the radio, and karaoke without music began.

　　I am very touched, but I can’t shed tears, lest tears blur my goggles. Unfortunately, Wuhan has such a strong and optimistic Wuhan people. Thank you for your understanding and cooperation. You need an outlet to express yourself. The "Reading Club" is your stage, telling your own stories, listening to each other’s voices, and sharing this psychological difficulty.

　　The only thing we can do is to step up our work and pace, give more comfort and encouragement, and do more to help Wuhan control the epidemic as soon as possible! At that time, let’s all take off our masks, read books and sing together!

　　In Wuhan in the early morning, the night is like ink, and Leng Yue is like frost. Jianghan Fangcang Hospital is still busy and orderly. Help my teammates put on protective clothing and see them into the cabin. I will say goodbye to them for another 6 hours. Peace! My teammates.

　　After arriving in Wuhan, the hospital’s suggestions on hospital sense protection were adopted by the headquarters of Fangcang Hospital, and the Guangdong experience was introduced into Fangcang Hospital to launch the "sense-controlled observer" system. I am the leader of the Qinghao Microbiological Inspection Team of the Department of Laboratory Medicine of the Second People’s Hospital of Guangdong Province. Considering my rich experience in sensory control, the team decided to let me be a sensory control observer. "Slow down, according to the steps of wearing, wear masks and hats first … …” Observers mainly help the medical staff entering the cabin to put on protective clothing, because once they make mistakes, they may cause occupational exposure. So I have to keep a close eye on their every move and remind them of the mistakes in time.

　　Our medical staff have four shifts every day, and medical staff will go in and out of the cabin every six hours. In addition, we will wear protective equipment in advance and pick up our off-duty colleagues. It takes our observers at least three hours to go out every trip. Escort by turns within 24 hours to protect the health of medical team members at all times. The team members affectionately called us "the protector of everyone".

　　When I left home, my wife, who was also a medical staff, was very supportive of me going to the front line, and my daughter also made paintings to cheer me up. Unexpectedly, when I was on the night shift the next day in Wuhan, I just turned on my mobile phone and heard the bad news of my grandmother’s death! I was brought up by my grandmother. According to my hometown custom, I have to go back to attend the funeral, but I really can’t go back now! Suddenly guilt and remorse are intertwined in my heart, and I can’t get up for a long time. Afraid of affecting the mood of my teammates, I returned to the station and went into my room without telling anyone. Shut the door, tears can’t help but flow down. I explained the situation to my mother and family members, and asked them to help me do my last filial piety to my grandmother.

　　My teammates have to go into the cabin, so I have to continue to stand on my post. Although I can’t send my grandmother the last trip, I believe my grandmother will be proud of what I have done.

　　Cartography: Li Ruoyi

　　Author: Wang Congcong Zhao Limei

　　CCTV News:In 2023, the national college entrance examination began on June 7, and the number of applicants for the national college entrance examination this year was 12.91 million, an increase of 980,000 compared with last year. There are 7,726 test sites and 345,000 examination rooms nationwide, and 1.013 million invigilators are deployed. On the morning of June 7, there will be an exam on Chinese subjects.

　　The subjects of the national college entrance examination in 2023 are Chinese, mathematics and foreign languages, focusing on June 7 — On the 8th, other subjects are subject to the college entrance examination model of each province.

　　Up to now, 29 provinces across the country have started the new college entrance examination reform. According to local conditions, at present, the new college entrance examination has two modes: "3+3" and "3+1+2". According to the principle of starting from the beginning grade, the new college entrance examination schemes in various places are started from the first year of high school in the autumn of that year, and the first new college entrance examination mode is tested and admitted three years later.

　　This year, a total of 14 provinces adopted the new college entrance examination model, namely: Zhejiang, Shanghai, Beijing, Tianjin, Shandong, Hainan, Hebei, Liaoning, Jiangsu, Fujian, Hubei, Hunan, Guangdong and Chongqing.

　　In 2024, seven provinces including Heilongjiang, Gansu, Jilin, Anhui, Jiangxi, Guizhou and Guangxi will start the first new college entrance examination.

　　Eight provinces including Shanxi, Henan, Shaanxi, Inner Mongolia, Sichuan, Yunnan, Ningxia and Qinghai will start the first new college entrance examination in 2025.

　　Two modes of new college entrance examination reform

　　The "3+3" model of the new college entrance examination reform means that students should independently choose three subjects from ideological politics, history, geography, physics, chemistry and biology as elective subjects in the college entrance examination, except Chinese, mathematics and foreign languages.

　　The "3+1+2" model of the new college entrance examination reform means: in addition to Chinese, mathematics and foreign languages, students should choose one subject in physics and history; In the ideological and political, geography, chemistry, biology, choose two subjects as the subjects of college entrance examination.